I was recently talking to a guy who is separating from his wife, because they “no longer got along”. He was explaining, with some resolve, that he was getting his kids every other weekend so that he could “keep being a dad”.
That’s not being a dad. Playing with children every other weekend makes you a Big Brother or Big Sister.
Taking care of their mother, showing them how to work through difficult times, being there at night so that they feel safe while they sleep, being there for every holiday, every special event and every step of their life – without the despair of knowing that their parents do not love one another… That is being a father. That is being a man.
I’m tired of culture coddling men who are too afraid to be men. Stop hiding behind the national statistics of divorce. Be courageous. Be a fighter. Do the hard things. Do walk away because “it’s hard”. Everything worth having is worth fighting for. Directly or indirectly your actions say something to your kids. Teach your kids to fight for their families. Teach them that parenting and a marriage are not part-time activities. Teach them that they are more important than your selfishness is.